Sparkle School Lingo


The stuff we say.

Sparkle School has a language all its own, and you can pretty much count on hearing a term or two that you won’t understand at first.

We’ve outlined some of our most commonly used terms below, so make sure you come here first if you can’t figure out what the heck we’re talking about. Don’t worry though! In no time, you’ll be hip to our jargon and fancy jive.

Mean Girls

We can think of Mean Girls as coming from the hurt parts of our “inner child”. Sometimes they can be mistaken for “the voice of reason”, but the reality is that they thrive on keeping us small. They tell us why it’s okay to settle for a life and/or work that doesn’t suit us. The discomfort the Mean Girls bring is a wake-up call pointing to unrecognized fears and limiting beliefs about what we might be able to create. Our Mean Girl messages are sometimes so subtle that we may need help from others to even recognize them. That’s where the support of Sparkle School comes in.

Sparkle Voice

This is the internal voice of possibility that lives within each and every one of us. For most, this part of ourselves has been dulled by the loud, incessant voices of our Mean Girls for as long as we can remember. We can think of your Sparkle voice as coming from the whole, healthy, fully creative part of your “inner child”. It is the purest, most authentic, part of your being. It’s important to remember though, that just as a sparkle is sometimes hard to see, your Sparkle voice can be hard to hear. It might first appear as just a thought seeming almost like a whisper. In Sparkle School we learn how to uncover and amplify that Sparkle voice so that it speaks louder than all other voices.

You Are Here Map

A map to help you identify exactly where you are in your own process of growth and change. It serves as a gauge to check in with how you’re feeling in any given moment and to become more aware of the choices that are available rather than continuing to operate on autopilot. Awareness gives us the opportunity to choose to be different in any situation in every area of our lives.


Being in a state of “doing” means that we are externally focused. We are staying busy and are focused on accomplishments. It’s all the stuff we fill our lives with like, working hard; paying mortgages, starting new hobbies, starting new relationships…you know the drill.


“Becoming” is the art of discovering who we really are. It’s a process of focusing internally to discover the true you, deep-down, without all of the external expectations surrounding you. “Becoming” is what you do in moments when you shut out all the external influences and really focus on finding your sparkle inside.

Seven Sparkle DNA Qualities

In Sparkle School we believe that everyone is born with seven core qualities that contribute to living a fully expressed and fulfilled life. These are the seven DNA qualities of SPARKLE:

S – Self-investing
P – Risk-ready
A – Actively Resilient
R – Radiantly Self-confident
K – Keenly Self-directed
L – Lovingly Purpose-Prompted
E – Effortlessly Passion Powered

These seven qualities become dulled and over-ridden by the programming of our schools and society. One of the main goals of Sparkle School is to reawaken and strengthen these qualities that are naturally alive and well in most highly successful entrepreneurs (many of whom dropped out of school early.)

Drama Queen Roles

These are the various roles that we all play in our interactions with other people. We first learn to play these roles as a child in our interactions with our family. We often play out different roles depending upon the people we are with and the circumstances we are in. Learning to recognize the characteristics of these roles allow us to shift into a more constructive version of the role we find ourselves in. The roles are:

  • Victim: “It’s not my fault. I can’t do anything about it.”
  • Becomes a Problem Solver: “I know I can solve this problem.”
  • Persecutor: “My way or the highway.”
  • Becomes a Structurer: “How can I help with this situation?”
  • Rescuer: “You can’t do it yourself; you need me to do it for you.”
  • Becomes a Tough Love, Nurturer: “You can do it, and I believe in you.”

Perfect Practice

Perfect practice involves incorporating things that bring joy into your day/life as a practice or routine that you commit to. A simple example might be adding something that makes you happy to your regular daily routine. Perhaps playing music in the background while you work, lighting a scented candle, hanging sparkly lights around your house, or having fresh flowers sitting beside you. It could involve making a commitment to yourself to do yoga or walking on a regular basis. It’s intentionally developing a practice that is perfect for you.

The Reset Button

The Reset Button is a process that teaches you to immediately shift your thinking pattern. In particular it can immediately shift fear and doubt about the worst possible outcome of a situation, into the very different possibility of what might be the best possible outcome. Another way to think of this tool is that it puts you in the driver’s seat of your emotions. It teaches you to create a picture of what you do want, rather than what you don’t want to happen.

Ease and Grace

This is your “optimal operating state”! Ease and grace has you effortlessly making deliberate choices and courageous moves that are aligned with your core values. When you are in a state of ease and grace your actions feel inspired and things just seem to fall into place easily and naturally.

Core Values

Core values are the non-negotiables in our life. They are the things that matter most to you. They are kind of like our emotional DNA, meaning they’re totally, one hundred percent innate. These values can be used as a compass to move you closer and closer to a life that you are in love with.